Creating Space: My Birthday Intention

Happy Spooky Season! I love October for the gorgeous sunsets, the changing of the seasons, the fun fall vibes and because it is my birthday month. Each year around my birthday I like to reflect on the past and set intentions for the future. This next trip around the sun one of my main intentions is to create more space in my life. I consider myself a very “busy” person, meaning that my schedule is always full and I often find myself rushing from one thing to the next. (Who can relate? 🙃). Even though I have improved on this a lot over the years, I still feel pressure to always be doing something and have a hard time truly relaxing.

Over this past year it has become clear to me that this way of being is no longer serving me, and in fact, my overly packed schedule is in total opposition to everything I am trying to create. I am creating a consistently well-regulated nervous system, a clear, calm mind, a nourished, healthy body, and a life that feels peaceful, joyful and easeful… Rushing around and filling my calendar with nonstop activity is NOT going to get me there. I can do all the yoga, meditation and breathwork in the world but if I am still in “go-go-go” mode all day every day my nervous system will never be able to fully relax.

I am grateful for my ability to take on a lot and I know that it was necessary during certain stages of my life. Sometimes you gotta hustle. But this next year I am choosing to shift out of hustle mode and into “honoring my natural rhythm” mode. It doesn’t feel good to be stretched thin. It doesn’t feel sustainable. So even though my ego is screaming at me, telling me that I can’t slow down because everything will fall apart, I am making the decision to give myself more space. This looks like saying “no thank you” more often, stepping back from certain commitments or relationships, scheduling time where I have nothing planned, not worrying about what I should be doing at every given moment and, most importantly, letting go of the guilt and self imposed pressure to do more. I am ready to try a new way.

I have been contemplating how to actually create more space. Everything on my calendar feels important so how do I know what to let go of and what to keep? I think it comes down to being able to tune into my internal “yes” and “no”. Each of us has an inner knowing that can guide us to make the best decisions possible in the moment. I have been practicing this a lot lately, and I was actually first introduced to this during chiropractic school. You may not be aware of it, but when I am adjusting you I am tuning into my internal “yes” & “no” to guide me. I am asking my body what your body needs. Learning to trust that guidance has been a huge learning process for me and I am proud of the progress I have made.

Intentionally creating more space in my life is going to require that I take that skill to the next level. I have a hard time saying no because I really do want to do all the things. However, in order to embody the version of me that is tapped in to her intuition, tuned in to her bodies needs at all time and feels relaxed more than she feels overwhelmed, I know I need to turn down the rushing and prioritize more genuine connection with myself. If you resonate with this I invite you to do the same. Please reach out if you want support or just a companion along this journey.